It was not that many years ago but at least 25 lifetimes ago. I was full of motivation to feel more in my body and yet I didn’t know my body, I was entirely in my head, and I had a hard time expressing what I needed. In those days, I often described my body as “tricky” and “difficult” and “broken”...
I wasn’t any of those things but at the time that’s what I thought and I wanted it to be different but I was mostly sure it could not be. I was buried under layers of noise, guilt, and shame. Buried under trauma. Raised Catholic. Confused by conflicting social messaging.
My marriage had just ended and it catalyzed me into the most transformative years of my life. Because after I followed the rules and married the guy and bought the house and had the job….after I did all the things in the script….after that all fell apart...I felt emboldened to seek my own path. Somewhere in me I could hear the faint whispers of a Tenacious and Sensual Free Spirit who knew I could experience so much more. It became clear this part of me was never going to give up. This voice in me, while faint, had real wisdom. And slowly I turned towards her and I nurtured her and she nurtured me right back.
I followed the thread. It was just a wisp at first. A book that felt right. A teacher. A question. A conversation. A course. More books. Lots of practices. Over more than a decade I learned and shifted and upleveled what I felt in my body. It was a profound journey for me. I started having experiences that were beyond explanation. They were mystical and magical and it’s the stuff that leaves science scratching its head.
Once I unstuck myself, the energy started flowing freely through me and the possibilities felt endless.
I talked with others about what I was learning and experiencing, thinking everyone else was already having these experiences and I was last to the party. Turns out, what I was learning was new to most of the people I spoke with. They were really curious about what I had to say and I learned I loved talking with people about it and helping when I could. Especially because I knew so intimately the experience of feeling broken and I knew so intimately the experience of healing.
I stumbled upon Layla Martin’s Sex Love and Relationship Coaching Program (now called the VITA program) and I was ALL IN, clear that this is how I will contribute to the world.
I would tell people in Ubers and on planes and at parties what I was studying and inevitably they would spill their hearts and pains and fears and desires to me. I would hold them and their tender stories with so much care. No judgement. Only Love. People need a soft place to land. People are craving to be heard and held. While my story was different, I knew their tenderness. And I knew I was on my right path.
Being a Pleasure Coach is my calling. I teach vulva-bodied people how to feel more in their bodies. I teach people how to have Pleasure Flexibility, meaning they have more paths to pleasure, more ways to encourage and grow orgasmic energy in their bodies. I teach people how to tap into the power of their pleasure and wield it like a sharp knife, cutting through the noisy layers on top of their intuitive and creative selves. When people turn on their turn-on it literally is transformative. Pleasure is a Truthsayer, afterall. It shows us everything. And Pleasure is our birthright.
I am on the most magical and rewarding journey of my entire life. Every body is capable of so much magic. Every single body.
What is softly whispering from within you, patiently waiting for you on the other side of your pleasure?
XOXOH,
Jenn Infantino
Pleasure Coach
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